On Confidence:

This is my last post on Paper Hearts for 18 months, and if you want to check out what I'm doing on my mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I've started a second blog, A Little Courage. It's pretty groovy, so head on over!

But one last post on this blog, and see you on the flip side!

On Confidence:

Confidence is hard. Every girl gets that. (And I mean every. girl.) For me, the problem was two-fold. A) I'm pretty shy (and I used to be cripplingly so.) B) I was insecure about my body.
As far as body confidence goes, it took a while. I've always been built differently - I know people pooh-pooh that "big bones" notion, but I am built big. I'm decently tall - 5'8" - have broader shoulders than most of my guy friends, and big hips. Pack extra poundage onto that and you've got yourself one big girl. Although, to be honest, I've never thought of myself as a "Big Girl" - the girl who magazines advise to wear blazers to "skim their curves", the girl who shops at plus-size stores - I never, ever identified as her. And maybe that's an error in my perception - I am plus-size, after all; I wear anything from a size 12 to a size 16. Sometimes people - even people who love me - say things that make me pause and go, "Wait, AM I a "Big Girl"?" Not that there's anything wrong with feeling or being seen as one, it's just that that's not what I see when I look in the mirror. Does that make sense? So sometimes there's major cognitive dissonance.
Starting as early as 7th grade, I dieted, I went on workout binges, and regardless, I had days and sometimes weeks on end where I just felt fat. As a teenager, that's devastating. I don't know when the change happened, not all at once, I guess, but instead, little by little. By my senior year of high school, I had pretty good body image. And it just keeps getting better. (Yay!) It's a healthy body image. I know my body's flaws, you believe it. I think I might actually be, well, fatter, than I see myself as. But I just think, screw it. I'd rather be a "Big Girl" with incredible body image & self-esteem, a "Big Girl" who looks in the mirror and thinks "Hot dayummm," than a skinny girl without those things.
I have a strong body - thanks for the solid Dutch genes, dad. My build is a blessing. I love when people assume I can't do something because I'm chunky, or a girl, or both, and, guess what, I can. I love that I'm not weak, that I can do guys' jobs for them; I love being tall; I love being solid; I love having physical presence; I love my butt and my boobs; I love my body. I am happiest when I am treating my body right, when I push it in workouts and make it happy by feeding it well - not by starving it, not by dieting, but by being smart about what I use to fuel it. I feel beautiful in my skin. When no one's home, I'll walk around the house all day in my underwear. Being a size 12-16 doesn't mean I'm not beautiful, and it doesn't mean I have to see myself or my body in a negative way. It doesn't mean I have to hide.
Even if I'm the only person in the world who sees me as beautiful, I'm still beautiful. I know it's not science, it's not even logical, really, but to me, it feels right: I am sexy, I am beautiful, I am radiant - because I believe I am. If I am the only person who believes that, I've still won.

With that doozy out of the way, let's talk the type of confidence that isn't tied up in your body. And, let's be honest, this is a much more important kind, although for a lot of girls, loving your body can help with loving yourself as a whole. This is about feeling smart-funny-outgoing-warm-fun-WHATEVER enough.
Enough, that's the word, isn't it? That's the word that keeps us from loving ourselves, it's like a big bouncer at a club with, you know, Emma Watson and Jennifer Lawrence inside - happy, lovely, confident people. It's a club you want to be in. If we can get past "Enough", the whole world opens up. Enough is a comparison, and the worst part is that it's not even a comparison to anything real. It's not a comparison like: "Ugh, I'll never be as funny as my cousin", or, "I'll never be as bold as Beyonce". Those are bad enough. Enough is a comparison to an idea. "I'm not smart enough." Enouch? Enough for WHAT? Enough for WHO?
You've got to be enough for yourself. Once that hapens, enough doesn't matter anymore. In high school, and especially at BYU, where just about everyone is a verrrry dedicated rocket-scientist, I didn't always feel smart enough. Sure, I was smart. But not enough. But you know what the ideal "Smart" is? Like God-smart. That's about as smart as you can get. That's where "Enough" will take you, and guess what? Hard truth: I will never be that smart. You will never be that smart. True story. None of us will.
So turn yearning into gratitude. Be grateful - if you're smart enough to enjoy what you love to do, you're smart enough.  You're funny enough to make yourself laugh? That's what matters most; you're funny enough. Screw it if you're not outgoing! There are great pros to being introspective. Google it or ask me if you can't see them. Does it matter if you're not warm "enough" if the people you love know you love them? Not a whit. If you're awkward, look at it this way: when you do make a connection, you know it's real.
You will never be enough for an idea. Ideal people don't exist. But you can be enough for you.
As hard as it is to love others, it's even harder to love yourself. But your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have. There are other massively important relationships out there - romantic relationships, friendships, familial relationships. Even a different kind of relationship -in my personal life, I find that my relationship with myself is helped by and runs parallel with my relationship with God. But all these relationships function best and bring the most joy when you are at your happiest, most confident best - when your relationship with yourself rocks. 
Confidence is not narcissism. Nor is it some kind of elusive magic power that makes everything wonderful.  Finding confidence doesn't necessarilymean you'll find love, find your path, find forever, constant happiness. It does mean this, though: All those things you're looking for won't be so missed while you're waiting for them. Confidence means that, like William Wordsworth said, you are "made for [your]self and happy in [your]self." Whatever you believe in and whatever you want out of life, knowing that you are a wonderful woman with the power to change the world will change the world. And you'll be tres heureuse to boot. Sounds like a win-win-win-win-win to me.

xxx and all that jazz,
Tabby

My Dear Watson

Sorry for being out for so long, babes.
And this isn't so much a real posting as, well, pictures.

When I was in the third grade, I told everyone that Emma Watson was coming to my eighth birthday party, and we were going to ride in a limo, and get our toenails painted - me and Emma Watson and all my friends.
A) I was obviously delusional but
B) She's totally coming to my twentieth birthday party.

All I can say is that if you're not dying over these impossibly cool pictures of Emma Watson in August's Teen Vogue, then we can't be friends.

This girl rates just under Audrey Hepburn and Amy/Tina (because I will never choose one over the other, and thus, they are one.) She's classy, she's funny, she's MAD gorgeous, she's a style icon, she's an icon of niceness and courage and humor and everything I think is good. I will take my cues for growing up gracefully from her, thanks vair much.

Anyways, I'm not obsessed, obviously.

Go ahead, fall in love with her all over again.
(P.S. Well done Slytherin, well done Slytherin -
Teen Vogue, this is a fiiiine feature. Do more gorgeous, forward-thinking shoots like this and baby, I will come back.)

(P.P.S. I've just found my new hair obsession.)

 

 

ER HI WHAT?

Freshest.

 

xxx and all that jazz.

She's Just Being Miley

It's not...it's not good, but I love it. (While it's not good, to be fair, she's still come a long freaking way musically.)

I just kind of love this crazy chick.

You just do you, Miley. You just do you.

 

xxx and all that jazz,
Tabby

Untitled #70

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Be the good in the world.

Be the good in the world. by tabbybrower on Polyvore

Watch With Glittering Eyes

Watch With Glittering Eyes by tabbybrower on Polyvore

Crushing On: John Watson's Style

I think Imma start a weekly (or, you know, whenever I feel like it) post called Crushing On:.
Tonight, I'm watching The Hounds of Baskerville, and just noticed John's EXCELLENT green coat. So tonight, we celebrate, obviously, the adorable, classy Martin Freeman as John Watson, but most especially Watson's excellent, "I'm just off for a walk in the country but then maybe I'll catch some bad guys" style. But really, I like it. A lot. And I'm still obsessed with that coat. Lots of not entirely clear pictures of it to follow.

SEE IT? It's good. Like really good. Think of all the fun ways you could dress that coat. Please & thank you, wrap it up and ship it to me stat. John Watson sold separately.

Sweater love. Awww bless him.

Crushing On: John Watson, unlikely style icon.

xxx
 

Adventures & Other Things That Make Me Happy

I was sitting at the piano yesterday, going through an old notebook, looking for song material, when I came across journal entries from Study Abroad.
And they made me happy, and not like they'll necessarily make you happy, but what the heck. Also, I apparently have plans to live ALL the places. Nbd.
We'll just pretend it's like I'm liveblogging the whole experience, instead of failblogging the entire three months. It is without further ado that I present to you: Adventures (ONLY eight months after they happened.)

Saturday - Saturday market in Loche, live there much? It's all so picturesque, but it also feels quite real, and I could happily live here. More than Paris, even. Yeah, I went there. & there's lots of gorgeous woods round here, like in Amboise, where we're staying. Mel & I went for a run last night and it was major fairytale. So in love with this country, but also terribly excited for Belgium, Amsterdam (!!!), & obvs...England, etc.
Paris did teach me I could be a city person if said city is beautiful enough...but being out here in the autumn woodsen reminds me of home & the fact that deep down, I'm just plain country.
& bought a gorgey russet sweater at the market. (& Alicia bought it in grey...twinsies!) (Joking.) (But really.)
Off to Chenonceau!
xxx
Also there was this sweet black lab at the market and everyone immediately goes up and pets him for like a year - like, spot the dog-lovers - but he was the sweetest - Sapphy - but made me miss Hoss & Boo hardcore.
Also yesterday - Leonardo da Vinci's French home & a huge park with tons of his inventions - gorgeous, mad fun, vair cool, and I took mebs a million pictures for KK.
xxx

Saint-Malo Saint-Malo Saint-Malo!
So gorgeous and peaceful and wild. You understand. I think beaches just won in the eternal beach vs. mountains discussion. It is so perfect. The oooooooooocean. Last night we were in our church clothes and straight up got in there. Soaked to my waist? Don't mind if I do. And it was tres warm. BRILL. & today we just like sat and watched the ocean for over an hour.
SO HAPPY.
Here I want to live.
Also Chenonceau yesterday (Saturday?) - so lovely & fairytale-y. The wooooods. Mmm. Oh, and happy October!
xxx

At Port...en...Bennis. I think? (UPDATE: Nah, it was Port-en-Bessin, my little fools.) It's a fishing town, not v romantic but almost...realistically romantic? Like modern drama? Think the town in Ondine when there's the accident. Although obvs less chaotic. But, like, Mel & I popped outta our hotel room at tenish, wandered the tiny town center, with two roads facing each other across a canal, with all the boats blinking blue and guys hauling fish out of their boats. Also cool moving asphalt bridge, v. Hogwarts. Anyways, it smelled of fish & salt & grease & it was raining lightly, the kind you barely feel but can see coming down hard in the goldy streetlights, and it was fantastic. Normandy D-Day beaches manana.
xxx
Oh & Mont St. Michel today! Really really lovely, & made me think of our Christmas Village train, all steep little road winding up through the cottages.
"The cure for anything is salt water: tears, sweat, the sea."

Omaha Beach - assess, adapt, and overcome.
At Omaha Beach: how incredibly brutal. War is horrible & brutal & sick & dehumanizing, but warriors - they're noble & believe in something & are braver than I think most of us can realistically imagine. The greatest horrors of mankind seem to create the greatest men.

Oct 3
The Bayeux Tapestry this morning - seriously excellent.
Giverny this afternoon, except it was pouring.
And now we've been on the bus for ages, & it is so grey and green and it's sleepy and sad and lovely. & Fire Coming Out of the Monkey's Head just came on. Excellent. I love France, uh, a lot.
xxx
One of those days where I dream - more than normal - that I can fly. Comprende?
& all the countryside & towns we're passing...the houses all look either like mental institutions in horror movies or crazy, stupidly picturesque & lovely & cosy, all windowboxes and smoke curling out of chimmneys and painted shutters and all that, or some bizarre combination of the two.
Very If You're Feeling Sinister.
Yet all highly magical, too - that wooded glen with smoke rising out of it? An elf feast. These brick houses? Holding a mad magician, C.S. Lewis style, every last one of them. That sort of feeling.
Count me in and consider me sold. If I could get thrown into a story right now, Inkheart style...well, I'm not so sure I couldn't, today.

Just watched The Sound of Music on the bus (love). (HELLO Christopher Plummer. Who knew that was him? Not me. I love Captain Von Trapp.) (LOVE.)
In ma homeland...The Nederlands! What's more, last day with Pieter, our adorbs bus driver/ ma Dutch brotha. He's the jovial big-belly-ed kind of man whose tip of the nose gets red when he laughs at his jokes. That kind. Adorbs.
Nederlands Nederlands Nederlands.
It's about 4 here, the sun's low in the sky & mad bright, & it's v green and chill & Just a Boy is playing. Done & done. One of those Mindy moments: "Or rather, who I have been is not who I will be."
It's naice. xxx

Sent mom a pic of the I Love You sign drawn in the sand for her birthday, and today's Demarie's birthday, so we all wrote on Post-Its & covered her hotel room door in em this morning. Besides which, on the bus, her countoff number is 3, so when she called it out we all launched into Happy Birthday. I love other people's birthdays!
xxx

I love how Holland is literally claimed from the sea. Like there's an area, like a whole county/providence (?) that didn't exist in 1930...because it was THE OCEAN. That's solid.

In France the clouds moved so fast it was bizarre, & in the Netherlands, they don't move at all. Oh, I'm sorry, did I say at all? I meant at all. The most green and blue still kind of peace, though...I like Holland MUCHO.
Still tripping out about the clouds, though. In 5 minutes they have made no progress. It's majer surreal.

Holllllllland. We were in Amsterdam yesterday and it was fab, I lurved it. So this morning we went to Leiden, and I was like, I love this. Leiden > Amsterdam. And we climbed up inside a windmill. Shveet. Then we stopped in Delft, and I was like, I DIE. Delft > Leiden. The Netherlands just keep getting better and better. All we've done in Delft is walk around & now we're drinking cinammon steamers in Coffee Company, where there are lots of scruffy, sensitive, well-dressed Dutchmen having deep discussions in English. It's just really sun-lit & cosy & there's a very nice, very broad-shouldered, very ginger baristo. Happiness is a Dutch coffee shop in the sunshine in the autumn.
xxx
(& the biiikes!) (& Vermeer's hometown!)




That's the end of that run-on trip down Memory Lane, babes.
xxx and all that jazz,
Tabby

On Style

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Weathervane Stories

Weathervane Stories

            The weathervane woke and flew North. Weathervanes are patient, always getting pushed around by the wind. Never able to turn off the damn radio singing up the chimney. And it is an irrefutable truth that those who own weathervanes are also in possession of terrible taste in music.

            The weathervane stretched one rusty leg, and as it began to stretch the other, it rose. The wind blew South, and because there is a first time for everything, the weathervane flew North. “The North,” the road sign said. “Deer Crossing,” the road sign warned. “Switchbacks ahead,” the road sign scolded. The weathervane flew on.

            Flying over the dark trees, the weathervane watched a small stream slip from trunk to trunk, threading around white sheep, small beacons in the dark. The weathervane slowly settled onto a top branch, ignoring that damn wind. “Go South,” she whispered. “It’s what you do.” She pushed at its iron plumes. “Go South.” The weathervane stepped off the branch and sank to the ground, settling into black mud. The wind drifted away, disappointed.

            “Fine. I hope you freeze. I hope you get stuck there. I hope a sheep eats you. Good luck out there, tosser.” The weathervane stayed quiet, and watched, and listened, as she grew into a distant, belligerent mist. 

            “Tosser?” it thought. The weathervane closed its eye and went to sleep. In the morning, it pulled one leg up, then the other, and flew North. It rained all day. The weathervane had never been cold before.

            The weathervane flew to a place where he could see no trees, only slate, only chimneys, only streets, as the sun disappeared, winking. “Come out West, pardner.” The weathervane planted its feet on a roof opposite a café, and watched the lights.

            One thin-lipped woman hurried something onto a napkin before slipping out the door, which jingled belatedly as she rushed away. The barista scribbled her number on someone’s latte. “Call me?” The weathervane closed its eye and went to sleep.

            When the weathervane woke, it stretched one leg out, then the other. But it stayed. Only for a little while. Long enough to see the thin-lipped woman beaming a thin-lipped smile at the weathervane from the front page of the paper lying on the stoop. Long enough to watch the barista dance out the café door on her last day; she was off to get married. Long enough to fall in love with the girl who lived in the house at its feet.

            She was very tousle-haired, this girl. She wore little shoes with straps around the ankle, and windy dresses with zippers and darts.  Sometimes she smiled back at the door and the weathervane could see her bright red mouth. Some days a knapsack sat against the small of her back, and some days she hugged a book to her chest.

            When she took her rosy cheeks South, far South, the weathervane lifted one leg, then the other, and flew after her. The wind was floating East at the time. “There’s nothing for you in the South,” she promised. The weathervane flew on.

            “What a funny weathervane!” her new friends giggled. “A raven? How unique in Tijuana.”

            “It’s sentimental,” she lied. It certainly hadn’t been sentimental enough for her to pack, and she supposed her mother had slipped it in her bag. “It reminds me of home,” she smiled.

            She only listened to The Smiths and Yo-Yo Ma. The weathervane could only just see the record player turning lazily if it craned its neck towards the open window. At dusk the weathervane could hear ice cubes and quiet conversation, and sometimes the girl would laugh, and the weathervane knew it was her laugh. That laugh, the one that rose over cello and Morrissey, was the only laugh that sounded like it came from a red mouth.

            The mariachi band at her wedding was lovely, big men with bigger moustaches crowding into her green backyard, dark but lit with fairy lights. Tequila for everyone! It’s a wedding! Everybody smiled when they drank the tequila; they loved it; “Más, más!” And it was good for a very long time, but it must have stopped being good, because she stopped laughing. Sometimes she shouted, and it never sounded like the shouts that would come from a red mouth. Sometimes someone else shouted, and it never sounded like things you should shout at a rosy-cheeked girl with red lips.

            But the weathervane stayed because she was still tousle-haired, and she still listened to that song it really liked, about a bicycle. One morning an old car pulled out of the garage, as it did every morning, but that night, and a night after, and another night after, the garage waited, empty. One morning another, different, old car crept to the curb, and she threw her suitcase into the back, and the weathervane knew this was different than sometimes “going to the movies” or “out for drinks”.

            The weathervane followed the old car East, to a place with much larger birds of metal. He flew North, far North, alongside an airplane of suits and plaid scarves, North alongside a coach of gray jeans and muddy shoes and quiet people. He followed her to a place where he could see no trees, only slate, only chimneys, only streets. She dragged her suitcase up the street, up the walk, up the stoop. She still wore her little shoes with the straps around the ankle, and those windy dresses, but her mouth was never bright red anymore, and he couldn’t hear her laugh over the silence, let alone over a record player.

            The wind swanned by on her way from coast to mountain to desert. She would slip through the bottom of the door and sit in the fan, watching the girl. On the roof, she would tell the weathervane ghastly stories. “She’s getting fatter and fatter!” The wind would spit. On the occasion the girl would leave the house, the weathervane saw that she was. Her dresses floated less. “She never smiles.” The weathervane could only believe the wind: he never saw her turn back to the house and smile now.

            Sometimes the weathervane knew things before the wind, but could only sit patiently and listen. “Her hair is white, and she moves so slow.” The wind scorned, whipping around the rusty weathervane. “Her life is short, you fool. She never smiles. You’re rusting on this roof. What are you doing?” The weathervane didn’t know that it mattered. It belonged here, waiting to hear cello and red laughs.

            When the weathervane lost a wing to rust, the wind beat it again, hurling words like “dying” at it. The weathervane didn’t know that it mattered. It belonged here, waiting to see windy dresses and canvas knapsacks.  The wind speared it with a short goodbye and swam South, warm and golden long before she reached the sea. A white van stumbled onto the curb, and the girl hobbled out. She wore black shoes with fat soles and a dress drowning in garish flowers. She carried a dark stick and her suitcase.

            A man in beige pants and a blue shirt hurried up the walk and gave her his arm. She looked back at the door and turned a key. The weathervane watched her, and she looked up and watched it. Under her wrinkled forehead and sagging cheeks, she had a red mouth. She smiled softly at the weathervane, her eyes the amber of tequila, and almost as clear. At her smile, the weathervane felt as if it had rusted straight through, as if the rod through its body was no longer solid.

            She turned and trudged down and into the white van, filled with the white heads of pensioners. They looked like the sheep in the mud. Very beacon-y, the weathervane thought quietly. It flew North, farther than it had ever flown, and waited on top of a big beige building, just above a window that was always closed, where the girl slept and ate and sometimes read. The weathervane waited for her red laugh.

            The wind was right, it was always right. The girl had a short life, after all. But the weathervane thought it would wait, anyways.  And a raven weathervane is never more in place than in a quiet churchyard.

Belief.

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I have ALL the homes.

Then think you right: I am not what I am. – Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

Living in London and traveling England was the best thing I’ve ever done. It was magical and cold and spiritual and lonely and uplifting and cold and empowering and inspiring and cold, and most of all, I put on at least half a stone. Digestives are the delicious, delicious devil.

For all the courage and wonder England poured back into me, for all the beauty it sewed back into my seams, it did a nasty thing. It introduced the idea of discontent into a simple life. I have got two homes where I used to have one, and I am too simple for this loaded gun. To quote A. A. Milne, how lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard. How lucky I am to have two such places, filled with two such sets of people, home to two such sets of memories. But how hard it is. Even so, it’s a blessing. Even when it hurts, even when it makes you so sad you feel nauseous (that’s a thing, isn’t it? Just me?) isn’t there something kind of wonderful about one’s heart being in two places at once? That’s a lot of love to go around, fools.

I was only away for a few months, and when I returned, I was thrilled to be home for Christmas, and how good that felt. I had missed snow, and my dogs, and my family, and the many simple pleasures of my daily life. Also my fat ginger cat. Obviously. But as time wears on, I feel this itch – a nagging need to return to my other home. It won’t be for years, I know. I leave in August, off to colorful Guatemala for 18 months. (And God did good by not sending me on a mission to the UK – I for sure would have bunked off in the night and stayed forever.) And after that, God only knows. Seriously. But I do need back. And it scares me. What’ll I do without my family? If we’re being honest as honest gets, here, I live with my grandparents, and they’re old. Not terribly so, as grandparents go – early to mid-seventies – but shouldn’t I spend as much time with them as I can? My brother wants to live in the States, so does my mother – shouldn’t I be close to them? My brother, especially, is my best friend. My cousins and aunts and uncles, to whom I’m all very close – they’re all here. I want to marry a good Mormon boy in the temple, and I don’t know too many of those who are willing to leave their family and country and move to a foreign place for, well, longer than two years. And even for two years, they do it for God, so I can’t quite convince myself they’d do it for some girl who will probably spend their life’s savings on merchandise at the Harry Potter Studio Tours. (I mean, £130 in one go. That’s a little bit ridiculous.)

And above all, I don’t know what God’s plan is. My deal with him – and you know just how well making deals with God goes – is that if I must stay in Utah, I’d like to stay right here. Right in my own cabin in the woods in the mountains, right here where I know I could be happy –at times a bit discontented, probably, going to the same grocery store my whole life, but for the most part, truly happy. And there’s a part of me that rather likes the idea of always buying my overpriced produce from Ream’s. Still, if I must stay in Utah, I’ve argued with Him, don’t send me out to Provo or Sandy or for heaven’s sake, Spanish Fork. Let me stay here. But my hope is that if He doesn’t keep me here (and I mean right. here. buddy.), He’ll let me go to my other home, and everything will work out. So it’s scary, because I want to do His will and I want to do what I want to do but I don’t know what His will is and I don’t know what I want to do. But hey ho, in God we trust, righto.

In interviewing for Study Abroad, I blurted that I was a total homebody. I then realized my mistake –ugh, I didn’t want them to think that if they accepted me I’d be sniveling and homesick all the time – and stammered, “Um, but I love to travel. I…I like being at home…but I,um…like to travel…too...” I thought I had blown it with that. They would think I was a fool and a baby and no Rupert Grint for me-o. The last part remains true (not for long. #DeterminationNation) but obviously my professors didn’t think me fool and childish enough to turn me away. So not that long ago, a little bit over a year ago, actually, I thought that. I thought I was a wanderlusty homebody. I’ve since discovered I’m not. I’m a homebody homebody.  It’s just that in my desperate need to travel to England, a need I’ve nurtured since probably ten years old (thanks, J.K. Rowling, for screwing me up royally. Two homes are the last thing a girl needs.), I think I knew England would feel like home. Not all of it. There were places that were not for me. I mean, you know, I can’t think of any, but I’m sure there is maybe one nasty industrial town in England I couldn’t bear to live in. Probably. Or it might all be perfect. That’s more likely.  

But in London, I found an exciting, vibrant city tailored perfectly to the fact that I’m, you know, 19. I want to try food that makes me sick and see plays that make me cry and nearly fall into the Thames (but actually) and, most especially, see gorgeous men every day of my life. Most especially. But you know what? I didn’t love London because I’m, like, so cosmopolitan and such a traveler. I loved it for the sweet man who ran the corner shop and always recognized me and asked how I was doing. Probably because he was concerned I would one day OD on Coke and McVitie’s. “Y’all right, love?” Translation: “I see yesterday’s Kinder Eggs have already caught up to your chin. How about some nice fruit and veg, love?” I loved it for Mark’s & Spencer’s (I’m looking at you, Veggie Percys.) I loved it for the Starbucks I threw ALL my money at every morning and the baristo (is that a thing?) with the excellent Cockney accent, and also for the smiley Polish girl at Paul Rhode’s who I never, ever, understood. I loved it for my Southbank, which was apple cider and honeycomb at Borough Market and the Mexican Street Kitchen (hello winter veg burrito!) and the Thames and Southwark Cathedral and those sweet roasted nuts on Millennium Bridge. There is an embarrassing wealth of food-related things on here.  I loved it for Kensington Gardens and Ben’s Cookies and I loved it overwhelmingly for The British Museum, which rocks and is the coolest and if you don’t agree then you suck. Sorry.

The point, my friends – yes, astonishingly, there is a point – is that I loved my routine, I loved the BYU London Centre, I loved the million little daily things that made it feel like my London, my home. Just as my home in the canyon makes me feel warm and loved, just as the astonishing where-have-you-been-all-my-life-ness of Ambleside makes me feel both cosy and alive, I felt like London loved me back. I’ve got a book, an oral anthology, called Londoners, it’s bloody brilliant, and there’s plenty of people that don’t feel that way. London couldn’t care less, they feel, and, you know what? I forked over a large sum of cash and then mysterious BYU travel peeps arranged a (pretty bloody posh) living situation, transport, dinner almost every night. It was a bloody good gig. So I’ve never really had to fend for myself in that big grey city. I can absolutely see how it would drain you, and especially if you’re from the country. Even I plan to head to Ambleside after, tops, ten years in the city. But five and a half months later, London is still pulsing, pulsing, pulsing in my blood and I may be wrong, I may be too optimistic, I’m sure as heck naïve – but I think I’ve got enough of London in my system to survive, and, dare I say it, thrive.

I just hope I got to go for more than the incredible experience. If that was all, if God was like, yeah, everything can fall into place for you to go just to like, renew you and fulfill this dream of yours, then okay. If He’s got a different plan, a plan that doesn’t involve that green island, fine. I can deal. I can trust Him. But I hope You sent me there to prepare me for a life there, Big Guy. I really, really do.

I am not what I am, yet. I’ve only been alive 19 years, there’s only 365 days in a year, I was not really fully functioning for at least 5,840 of those days, I actually doubt I’m fully functioning now. At least, I hope this isn’t my mental and emotional prime. That would be embarrassing. I would almost certainly be a divine fluke, in that case. Put this one back on the assembly line. But if I am not what I am, yet, then I am slowly getting there. England was an essential part of that. That place is now an essential part of me, and I know it sounds silly, and I know it sounds dramatic, and I know I was only in England for a little over two bloody months, but they were the most insane and incredible two months of my little life, they really were. When you’ve only been around 233 months, 2 (plus that other spare fantastic month floating around, called France and Belgium and the Netherlands) that are so drastically different from the other 230 are actually a big bloody deal. I wouldn’t be me, a terrifying thought, without London and everywhere else, I wouldn’t be whoever I’m going to be without it, either. I am not what I am. But whatever I am to be, there’s this beautiful place thousands of miles away that is going to be part of it. There’s this country called Guatemala that’s going to be part of it. There are a hundred other places and people that are going to be part of it that I don’t have a bloody clue about yet. But I am so stoked about all my homes and all my people and all my transfigurations. Change is the actual scariest, but it’s also the actual best. And there’s something wonderful about not knowing a bloody thing about the future.

Dear Heavenly Father,

As long as said future involves England.

Love,
Tabby

P.S. I promise someday I’ll learn not to try to make bargains with you.
P.P.S. Just as long as you send me back to England.

Exquisite Corpse III

Exquisite Corpse III by tabbybrower featuring sparkly shorts

Exquisite Corpse II

Exquisite Corpse II by tabbybrower featuring a net dress

She Loves.

She Loves. by tabbybrower featuring a metallic skirt

Rainy Daze

You may have noticed that I've been writing a lot recently, using lots of words, expressing feelings, thoughts, ideas, etc. But I'm like, totes getting carpal tunnel from typing all those words, and my shrink was like, "Your brain can't sustain this unhealthy activity. TBH, I would cut back to only typing a real blog post once a month or something. Your followers will survive off of pictures. I once watched a documentary on people who lived off of Pinterest for a month, so it's possible" Or something to that effect. I was too busy ignoring her to save brain space and examining my carpal-tunneled-wrists. So, like, pictures for rainy daze.

 

Sweater porn for daaaze.

Cuddle up in something groovy and have a lovely, (hopefully) rainy weekend, okay?  And don't you worry about me, I'll nurse my addled wits and ailed wrists and be back to writing real stuff...sometime. And by that I mean whenever. But fer now, feast yer eyes on Bob Dylan and Where the Wild Things Are tattoos and the coziest knitwear EVER.

xxx

 

I'll Fass Your Bender

And today is Michael Fassbender's 36th birthday! Is it just like Hot Stars with Accents Week? Because I'm obviously totally down. Let's phone Mr. President and get this made into a national holiday! I'm counting on you.

Look, this is Fassy, right? Even if you've never thought of Ewan McGregor as sexy, you've definitely thought about Fassy once or twice or all the time. So why torture you with words? Let's get to the good stuff.

 Okay.  A few words. Just because what comes out of his mouth is as lovely as looking at him. Well. Nearly. Objectifying for the win!

"I did [Jane Eyre] because my mother and my sister are really big fans of the book, and I wanted to see what they would think of the Rochester that I would bring to the table. That's the first reason I wanted to do it. I like that the characters are ugly and they're beautiful and they're cruel and they're nurturing. There's so much complexity to the characters, they're so well-written, and I find that interesting. There's ambiguity within the characters, and that's what really attracted me to it, to the performance."

"The problem is, we feel a lot of pressure about looking silly or appearing weak, whatever that means, or being a failure. You have to keep in your head: what's the worst that can happen? I'm trying to tell a story - what's the worst that can happen? You fall flat on your face, then hopefully you get back up again and go for it again and try something else. We're all going to die one day. I'm stealing that off Steve [McQueen]; it's what he'd say when he ordered me to take my clothes off. 'WE'RE ALL GOING TO DIE ONE DAY!'"

[on being nude in films and full frontal nudity] "To be honest with you again, I think it's the idea of male frontal nudity. It just baffles me: Women can parade around naked all the time, but the guy conveniently has his pants on. I remember my mom always complaining about that to me, saying, "This is such bullshit, it's always the women who are naked" ... so I did this one for you, Mom

"I suppose the German side wants to keep everything in control, and the Irish side wants to wreak havoc."

"I have a theory that everyone's crazy anyway. And those who think they aren't, are the ones who are even crazier - because they're in denial."

"...but you keep a realism, put AC/DC on, get over it, keep positive."

Also he plays guitar. Do you have any objections to any of this? I thought not.

This is too adorable to be real. Fassy and McAvoy for the win.

He's a natural ginger. And gorgeous. So...you're sold already, amirite?

 

Crushable said it bestest: "There must be photos out there of puppies with this exact facial expression." And so there are.

 

 

I'm sorry this isn't any bigger, you guys. So sorry.

That is what you think it is. You think it's Fassbender and Gosling, right? Right. You're right. That's right. What sweet, sweet righteousness that is.

He's nice looking as a robot. Speaking of, I haven't seen Prometheus, but I did see the promo spot with his character, and I died. Like full-on Rachel Zoe died.

 Ugh, enjoy.

& a vair happy birthday to the Fassbender.

xxx

 

 



You-In Muck-Regg-Er

Yesterday was Ewan McGregor's 42nd birthday.
I know! Exciting! Right?
Right?
So here's the deal. Maybe you've never really thought about it before. Ewan McGregor was just that nice man who played Obi Wan Kenobi and was in Moulin Rouge & Big Fish. He's a good actor. He's Scottish, isn't he? That's about all you know.
Well, in (belated) honor of his birthday, I'm going to make you certifiable Ewan McGregor fans. And by certifiable fans, I mean you won't know anything useful about him except some of the films he's been in and that he's adorable and attractive and actually kind of deserves way more attention than, say, Channing Tatum. (I'm not saying I'm impervious to that Tatum jawline, I'm just saying.) He's classy, he's mad talented, he's a family man, he's Scottish, he's smart, he's mischevious - I don't understand how you're not an adoring fan already. But whatever, I forgive you, it's probably not your fault.
Ready to be converted?


Ewan McGregor was in this little movie called Salmon Fishing in the Yemen.  Also I need to lay off on the sarcasm, apparently, because as I wrote that, it was all sarcastic in my head. And then I finished and realized there was no punchline, because Salmon Fishing actually was a small movie. Really insanely lovely, though. If you have feelings and maybe a heart and some tear ducts, you'll love it. It's also really funny. Also starring Emily Blunt, who happens to be a massive crush, so buy it, for good measure.

Ohhh, look who it is, the trailer! Obviously you have to watch it, if for no other reason than his accent.
(Not just a link. EMBEDDED. Now don't say I never do anything for you guys!)
 

Also he was in this film called Beginners, which I desperately want to see, which so should you.
 

And if you don't love Christopher Plummer, statistics show that you're 100% likely to basically suck. Science!

And he was in The Impossible, which is popular enough that you've probably heard about it. Can we just talk about what a fabulous actor he is? And how adorable those children are? And that's all. I saw it in a movie theater on the Champs-Elysees in Paris, and if you can recreate that exact viewing experience, then you should. Because it's delightful. But if not, that's cool, just watch it already. Aight?

So let's talk the talk. Obviously we'd love him for this quote alone, right?
"I certainly have no plans to leave London. It`s a great town."

But in addition to loving London (like any sane person, but that's besides the point), he's really down to earth. Check this out.

“I was with a friend of mine recently who was dying and while he was lying there with his family around his bed, I just knew that was it, that was the best you can hope for in life - to have your family and the people who love you around you at the end.”

"I am a married man. I haven`t been personally involved with all my leading ladies. It would maybe be somewhat glamorous if I had been, but I have not."

"I hated Clueless (1995) with a passion. I thought it would have been a really good film if someone had blown her head off at the end with a really huge gun. I mean, this rich bitch suddenly becomes charitable and then she`s okay? And then there`s the token black friend. It was so corrupt, so L.A., I hated it." (Does it or does it not tell you how deep I'm in when I let someone change my mind about Clueless?)

"I chose to live in London, and I love it there. But I`m Scottish through and through. It`s a great place, a beautiful land and a beautiful people."

Also he's positive. Tell me you love him already.
“I fight cynicism. It`s too easy. It`s really boring. It`s much harder to be positive and see the wonder of everything. Cynicism is a bunch of people who aren`t as talented as other people, knocking them because they make them feel even more untalented.”
"
Film-making is like a series of problems that need to be solved. And the excitement, the adrenaline that you get from making a small film is that you all have to pull together. You finish and you feel like you`re walking away from your family. I love that."

And he's a smart-ass.

“I`ve got a black woolen hat and it`s got Pervert written across the front of it. It`s the name of the clothing label. And I was with my wife and my baby at the supermarket and I didn`t think. I just put my hat on Clara`s head, because it was cold. And the looks. I couldn`t figure out why I was getting death looks. And then I realized my 10-month old baby`s wearing a hat with the word Pervert written on it and these people were like, `There`s Satan! There`s Satan out with his kid!` And then I made a point of her wearing it every time we went there.”

 “I started watching golf for the first time yesterday. I`m really worried about myself. I was actually enjoying it.” 

"I`m doing my bit for the women`s movement. The women have always been naked in movies and now I`m just desperate to take my clothes off as much as possible."

 "I`ve been naked in almost everything I`ve been in, really. I have it written into my contract."

"Isn`t Halle Berry the most beautiful woman? I have a film I`d like to be in her with. I mean, I`d like to be with her in." - At the 2002 Golden Globe Awards commenting to Melissa Rivers on Halle Berry, who just walked by.

"(My fans) say, `I`ve seen Star Wars and Moulin Rouge!. What else should we try to see you in?` I always tell `em to get The Pillow Book (1996). That would be a bit of an eye-opener for them, wouldn`t it?" (Side note: The Pillow Book is major major sexy times.)

In context, he's talking about the sexy times in movies.  "It`s not like I`ll play a carpenter and wear nothing but a tool belt while constructing a dresser. That`s just not safe. "

"Lying down from 50 feet, I was perfect. So I could really kill someone. Which is always good to know (On learning how to use a gun in _Black Hawk Down (2001)_)"

"My dad saw my full package in The Pillow Book (1996) and said `I`m glad to see you inherited one of my major attributes`."

"As a child I was taken to the pantomime or the theatre and I would always, always fall in love with somebody on the stage. And want to have sex with them."

"Then I watched the first episode of Star Wars over and over again. I loved it as a kid. It was a bit funny to be paid for it. I`d say to my wife, "I`ve got to go and watch Star Wars again, Sorry. I just haven`t quite got it...Brilliant."

Also a nerd.

When filming in Star Wars: Episode I - The Phantom Menace (1999), he kept imitating the noise of the lightsaber during his fights. George Lucas explained many times that this would be added in by the special effects people later on. Ewan said "I keep getting carried away.".

 

On family (he has three girls):

“I got married because I fell in love with this woman. I had a baby with her because we wanted to have children. But that's not because of some philosophical ideal at all, no."

 

“People are incredibly rude about it sometimes. Like, `What? You`re married?` Strange reaction to have. Proves what people`s ideas about marriage are. `We`re having a baby.` `What?` As if it`s the end of the world. Of course, it`s the start of a brilliant world.” 

 

“No, I`m putting it away, trying to buy a house for my family. The goal is to use the money to move into a big house, so my daughter can have a garden.” 

 

"Clara`s 16 months, and she`s really brilliant. She started talking, half in French and half in English. I don`t speak French near as well as her."

 

Is very particular about his children being photographed or seen on television.

 

Refused to have his wife and kids visit him on the set of Black Hawk Down (2001), because he felt the content was too violent and too bloody for them to see.

 

Ewan, a UNICEF ambassador, adopted a 4-year-old girl from Mongolia, named Jamyan, whom he met while traveling around the world in 2004. (April 2006).

 

 

 

And now, the moment you've all been waiting for!

Pictures & .gifs galore.

 

All I'm saying is we need to have a animated conversation about those shoes. And then I possibly need them.

And that's all, folks.

 

 

xxx